Do You Think Self-Doubt Can Be Healing?
Have You Ever Looked At How You Can Use Self-Doubt As A Catalyst For Your Change?
When I tap into the underlying positive intent, I believe in small, manageable doses, self-doubt can be healing. I wholeheartedly trust that I learn and grow from my inner uncertainties when I don’t hate on them and especially when I don’t hate on myself.
Here’s What I’ve Come To Understand When I Compassionately Befriend Self-Doubt:
• It makes me take an honest look at myself and dig deeper into my authenticity.
• It pushes me out of my comfort zone.
• It provides insight into where I’m incongruent in my values, beliefs and unresolved significant emotional events.
• It helps me break down barriers, expand in new ways of thinking, and gives me the courage to show up in the world in a way that amplifies my uniqueness and creativity.
I know it can be extremely challenging to acknowledge the dark, ugly negative stuff that lurks inside each of us but ignoring self-doubt makes us prone to accept the negative messages as truth, even when it’s false.
During these turbulent times there’s a strong desire within to protect and keep yourself safe from the illusions that arise when you lose sight. When this happens, what usually comes to the surface is the uncompassionate voice and unloving behavior of your “Inner Meanie.”
Your Inner Meanie can unleash self-doubt to the point where it becomes chronic, unrelenting and devastating to your self-confidence, performance and your soul’s brilliance.
HAVE YOU BEEN OVERLY CRITICAL WITH YOURSELF LATELY?
DO YOU FIND YOU’RE CUTTING YOURSELF DOWN MORE OFTEN THAN YOU WOULD LIKE?
If so, you are not alone. It happens to the best of us… BEEN there, DONE that!
BUT HERE’S SOME SWEET NEWS:
You can stop being a victim of your own verbal abuse.
• By compassionately challenging the negative messages of your own self-doubt.
• By giving yourself more love not less.
• By finding ways to understand your “Inner Meanie” and honor him or her for keeping you safe in the past.
Yes… there are ways to create loving, productive inner dialogues with yourself when you start drifting off into “Never-Never Land.”
Here Are 4 Of The Most Common Negative Thinking Patterns And How To Reduce Their Impact On YOU, Your Self-Belief and Your Innate Wisdom.
When you experience a result in one situation and determine that result applies to all other situations, you’re overgeneralizing. It’s rare that one outcome means the same outcome applies in all other situations.
The next time you find yourself overgeneralizing look for evidence.
Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left side, write out the proof that supports your thought. On the other side write down the proof that disputes your thought. Having evidence on both sides can help you look at the situation with a more balanced eye.
(# 2) IGNORING THE POSITIVE
How many times have you had a good day, until you make one mistake and that good day suddenly turns into a personal hell storm?
Finding a more balanced way to interpret things puts them in perspective. It’s not about putting on “rose colored glasses”. It’s about focusing on what really happened, celebrating more of the positive, learning from your experiences, and moving forward with grace despite your challenge.
(# 3) RUMINATING
Reflecting on your past mistakes can be a helpful part of your learning process. It can help you solve problems and avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
But what if you’re stuck in the past? Obsessing over what you did or didn’t do? Rumination doesn’t solve anything and only serves to make you feel worse. Give yourself 10 minutes of creative time to reflect on your challenge. Then make a conscious commitment and disengage – let it go for now and remember your truth.
When you’re in the middle of a situation that’s stressful or emotional it’s easy to get swept away in the moment and envision a minor mishap blowing up into a major catastrophe.
The truth is, even the worst-case scenario usually isn’t really all that bad. Our imaginations can get the better of us.
What’s the likelihood of your worst fears coming to fruition? Pretty unlikely.
The Next Time You Catch Yourself Catastrophizing Ask Yourself These Two Questions:
• IS IT POSSIBLE?
• IS IT LIKELY?
This can help save you the emotional stress. Even when a challenge crops up, you’re better equipped to deal with it.
Over the next few days, I invite you to pay attention to your moments of self-doubt and the negative thoughts that hold you back the most. See how this deep intense energy can serve you and increase your wholeness.
MAKE SURE YOU CELEBRATE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY…
EVEN WHEN YOU STUMBLE!
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