DOES YOUR INNER MEANIE SABOTAGE YOUR LIFE?
Everyone has an “Inner Meanie.” That internal monologue that shames you, criticizes you and interferes with your happiness, success, creativity and purpose. That stubborn, soul crushing voice can determine your behavior, impact your decision-making and affect your overall life satisfaction. Sometimes it does all three.
Sometimes all at once!
There’s no doubt that your “Inner Meanie” can be annoying and destructive. It can hold you back from realizing your dreams and fulfilling your true potential.
IT CAN SOUND SOMETHING LIKE THIS:
• “I’m a failure & a big, fat fraud!”
• “I give up, why bother.”
• “I can’t do this.”
• “I know something bad is going to happen, armor up!”
• “I must be perfect.”
• “I need to get my act together… pronto!”
Having the occasional negative thought is normal. The trouble starts when those thoughts become persistent, when they suck the life force, hope, and enthusiasm out of your efforts, or when they interfere with your heart-centered goals and big, bold, beautiful life!
BELOW ARE 5 COMMON SYMPTOMS OF SELF-SABOTAGE.
Choose one or two that you feel are affecting you today and would be most helpful to eliminate from your life starting NOW.
(#1) FIRST SIGN IS NEEDLESS WORRY
Do you agonize over life’s little mistakes?
Do you think about the worst-case scenarios constantly?
When you find yourself dwelling on ways to anticipate, prepare for and prevent bad things from happening, you’re experiencing needless worry. Needless worry keeps you in a constant state of anxiety, doubt and disconnection from your Authentic Self.
WHAT CAN YOU DO TO ELIMINATE NEEDLESS WORRY?
One of the best ways to eliminate worry is to share it.
Write it in a journal, talk to trusted friends and a caring, kick-ass, compassionate Coach!
(#2) SECOND SIGN IS PROCRASTINATION
Are you always taking action at the last minute?
Do you start projects then feel you can’t do it and your “Inner Meanie” tells you, why bother… don’t finish!
When you procrastinate your “Inner Meanie” shames you, it tells you you’re bad for not finishing. In an effort to escape that criticism, you avoid taking action.
It’s a vicious cycle and a tough one to get out of.
TIPS TO STOP PROCRASTINATING:
• Start your day with quite time, movement and / or connecting with nature.
• Then map out what’s important, create & prioritize what needs to get done.
• Get “not so fun” tasks out of the way first, then reward yourself for doing them!
• Eliminate distractions.
• Choose doing things “really well” over having it done perfectly.
• Love yourself not matter what comes your way.
(#3) THIRD SIGN IS FEELING WORTHLESS
Feeling worthless is about emphasizing the achievements of others while minimizing your own. When you minimize your achievements, you begin to feel like you’re not good enough and that you’re undeserving or even defective. That can impact your confidence and zap your motivation… big time!
BELOW ARE 4 ACTIONS YOU CAN TAKE TO REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE WORTHY:
(A) Stop Comparing Yourself To Others.
Put things in perspective by focusing on your own achievements, inner wisdom and brilliance.
(B) Practice Gratitude.
Write a list of the positive people and situations in your life.
It’s a great reminder that there are areas in your life that are favorable and working.
(C) Eliminate The Toxic People In Your Life.
Surround yourself with positive, supportive and inspiring people.
Those kindred Spirits who celebrate you and vice versa!
(D) Take Care Of Yourself.
Relax, meditate, crank up a great dance tune and get your groove on, make yourself a soul nurturing healthy meal, take a walk in nature and hug a tree, engage your creativity, reach out for support, laugh as much as possible!
(#4) FOURTH SIGN IS UNFILLED DREAMS
We all have dreams still alive in our hearts that we have not pursued. Maybe your dream changed or you replaced it with another. But when you have an unfulfilled dream that just won’t quit it means you are settling for less than you deserve. Feeling the constant pain of unfulfilled dreams and not taking action to pursue them is a sure sign of self-sabotage.
Dreams don’t have an expiration date but they do require inspired action.
Is it time to dust off that old dream of yours and move it forward?
(#5) THE LAST SIGN IS FOCUSING ON THE NEGATIVE
When you focus on your mistakes, your failures, what’s not working or what is missing in life, you are in self-sabotage territory. Placing an extreme amount of attention on what’s wrong attracts more of what you don’t want – more mistakes, more failures, more disappointments.
HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT’S WRONG?
Try making a list of what is positive in your life so you redirect your focus. Appreciate what’s working and give yourself some good lovin’!
If your self-talk includes more than a few of these 5 examples there is a very strong chance you’re self-sabotaging.
SO, HOW DO YOU BREAK FREE OF NEGATIVE SELF TALK?
It is easy to say, “Stop being so negative” or “Think positive!” but that is not helpful and it denies the normal negative feelings we all occasionally experience. Wouldn’t it be great if you could leverage those negative “Inner Meanie” thoughts and use them to help increase your confidence and self-esteem instead of tearing it down? It’s possible and in the next upcoming post I’ll show you how to do just that.
• Don’t believe everything you think.
• Go easy and be compassionate with yourself.
AND… know for sure, I definitely don’t think you suck!
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